Saturday, June 11, 2005

So I was once again reminded that I think I've made friends with some girls primarily because I'm attracted to them. Not that they aren't also cool people or whatever - I don't think I would hang around someone who was completely a jerk just because she was good-looking - but I also have the strong impression that I wouldnt be as interested in some people as friends if somewhere in the back of my mind I wasn't interested in them as more than friends, even though in many or most of these cases I have no actual intention of getting with them or trying to do so. And it seems that an attractive face makes their personalities seem more attractive too ,though I have also had the reverse happen (i.e. a really cool or good person seeming more attractive physically as well) . Back to the question at hand though, is it ok to make friendships based consciously or subconsciously on attraction or no, or does it even matter?

3 comments:

Anonymous said...

we often make friends for the purpose of having fun together. you are 23 yo straight male and your hormones are raging. does it come as a surprise that you enjoy being around cute girls, whether or not you see them as romantic prospects?

younglazarus12 said...

Well, when you put it like that...

I dunno, still seems a little shallow though. Whatever.

Anonymous said...

Im saying its not surprising that you enjoy hanging with cute girls, not that it should be your plan of action to seek only cute girls for female friends. I agree the latter is shallow. So to answer your question more directly:
Don't fault yourself for realizing that you enjoy being around someone in part because they are attractive. But don't pursue friendships based just on physical attraction if it will lead the "friend" to think it is based on something deeper. It's a recipe for hurt.

anyhow, i could be wrong, just my thoughts at the moment.