Hmm, I'm not sure I remember exactly the question I was going to ask yesterday, but I'll lay out the situation a little. So there's a girl (of course) that I like, but the problem is that the more I get to know her the more I like her in the unqualified sense (i.e. as a friend) and I want to develop a closer/deeper friendship with her if I can. But I also "like" her in the other way too, but I'm increasingly hesitant about jeopardizing our friendship by pursuing something more. On the other hand, it could be really great to be together as more than friends, and I at times get kind of impatient about that and want to try to start something up. I also can't tell if she is at all interested (and I don't know for sure that she might not be involved with/interested in anyone else, though she isn't as far as I can tell). And I can't figure out how to bring up the question with her-our conversations never go in that direction.
So I guess the first question is how do I even bring up the topic with her? Any insight on the other stuff would be appreciated as well.
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I don't know why no one seems to post comments. Your blog is pretty hilarious/thought-provoking/all the things a blog should be. Anyway, since you were specifically soliciting advice, I thought I'd give it my best shot (though I should warn you that my advice could very well be worse than useless). How the heck do you go about broaching the subject of possibly turning a friendship into a more than friendship? My guess would be that the girl probably already has at least some inkling as to your feelings (I'm pretty much a total idiot in this respect, and even I can tell about 20% of the time if a guy likes me--most girls are MUCH better at it) and is probably waiting for some kind of cue from you (as, unfortunately, most girls are still under the impression that the guy has to make the first move. Sorry.). It might sound dumb, but the first thing you should do is casually find out if she's seeing/interested in someone. Not only does it somewhat subtly tell her that you're interested, but if you find out that she is... well, better to find out sooner than later. It's might sound a little heavy handed, but it's subtle enough that she can choose to ignore it if she's only interested in you as a friend, but overt enough that it might give her courage to do something about it if she IS interested in something more. ::shrugs:: Again, you are under NO obligations to listen to me. I'm just rambling, and I don't think I'm really qualified to be giving ANYONE dating/relationship advice. Wow, this is a really long "comment." Stopping now.
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